Loving and Hating


What you love or hate about someone else is only a reflection of what you love or hate about yourself.

Ok. Let’s try this out. What do I hate about other people?

That people are so blind to the obvious.
That people impose their beliefs on others.
That people are hypocrites – and accuse you of things they are guilty of.
That people complicate simple things.
That people are stupid when you know, and they know, that they know better.
That they are so adamant that the wrong things are right.
When people are never satisfied, because nothing is perfect; when they feel that everything is worthless.
When people put on a mask just to please others and be accepted.
When people are so loving of beauty, and so hateful of ugliness.
When people do things just to be spiteful.
When people are completely self-absorbed.
When people praise tainted truths and half/whole lies.
When people deny the absolute beauty and truth of virtue.
When people are so bored that they like to infuriate and trick others purely for entertainment.
When people boast.
When people simply react.
When people curse half-heartedly.

I think this could be summed up as, I hate it when people act out of fear. Now, what do I love about other people?

When they have the courage to be honest with themselves.
When their eyes light up.
When they act out of loving-kindness and generosity – so much so, that they simply give and walk away, completely unconditional in their action.
When people are equanimous and objective: That they don’t care for what the world thinks of them, they only care about what the world feels – so much so, that they are objective simply because it is the right thing to do and no other reason.
When people sing and dance out of pure free-spiritedness.
When people live a life of simplicity in any place, at any time – without wavering.
When people are virtuous and humble in the face of true power.
When people are so in tune with life, that the creative spark – Magik – oozes out of them like a thundering waterfall, embracing and transforming everything and everyone around them.
When people respond to all things with gentle patience.
When people see perfection inside, and outside, of everything, in everything.
When people explain everything so perfectly – so profoundly – that the truth of it overtakes you, and affects you forever – and you don’t care if they believe it or not, if they practice it or not: just the fact that it has had such a positive effect on you makes it complete.
When people are passionate about things because they feel it at the depth of their being – and yet, to share this passion as a childlike, innocent celebration of life.
That people purify themselves all of a sudden for no reason whatsoever.
When people persevere in whatever cause, in the face of any odds.
When people praise the virtuous.
When people act from within.
When people listen – truly listen.
When people bless wholeheartedly.

What is the lesson here? Two sides of the same coin. Fear and Courage. Beauty and Ugliness. Blessing and Curse. Virtue and Vice. Easy and Hard. If anything Tantra has taught me, it is that the beauty is also in the ugliness – that heaven and hell are part and parcel. Both the hardest thing in the world to do, and the easiest thing in the world to do, is to love. How hard it was to love, a moment ago, and how easy, in the moment afterwards.

What you love or hate about someone else is only a reflection of
what you love or hate about yourself.Ok. Let’s try this out. What do I hate about other people?

That people are so blind to the obvious.
That people impose their beliefs on others.
That people are hypocrites – and accuse you of things they are
guilty of.
That people complicate simple things.
That people are stupid when you know, and they know, that they know
better.
That they are so adamant that the wrong things are right.
When people are never satisfied, because nothing is perfect; when
they feel that everything is worthless.
When people put on a mask just to please others and be accepted.
When people are so loving of beauty, and so hateful of ugliness.
When people do things just to be spiteful.
When people are completely self-absorbed.
When people praise tainted truths and half/whole lies.
When people deny the absolute beauty and truth of virtue.
When people are so bored that they like to infuriate and trick
others purely for entertainment.
When people boast.
When people simply react.
When people curse half-heartedly.

I think this could be summed up as, I hate it when people act out of
fear. Now, what do I love about other people?

When they have the courage to be honest with themselves.
When their eyes light up.
When they act out of loving-kindness and generosity – so much so,
that they simply give and walk away, completely unconditional in
their action.
When people are equanimous and objective: That they don’t care for
what the world thinks of them, they only care about what the world
feels – so much so, that they are objective simply because it is the
right thing to do and no other reason.
When people sing and dance out of pure free-spiritedness.
When people live a life of simplicity in any place, at any time –
without wavering.
When people are virtuous and humble in the face of true power.
When people are so in tune with life, that the creative spark –
Magik – oozes out of them like a thundering waterfall, embracing and
transforming everything and everyone around them.
When people respond to all things with gentle patience.
When people see perfection inside, and outside, of everything, in
everything.
When people explain everything so perfectly – so profoundly – that
the truth of it overtakes you, and affects you forever – and you
don’t care if they believe it or not, if they practice it or not:
just the fact that it has had such a positive effect on you makes it
complete.
When people are passionate about things because they feel it at the
depth of their being – and yet, to share this passion as a
childlike, innocent celebration of life.
That people purify themselves all of a sudden for no reason
whatsoever.
When people persevere in whatever cause, in the face of any odds.
When people praise the virtuous.
When people act from within.
When people listen – truly listen.
When people bless wholeheartedly.

What is the lesson here? Two sides of the same coin. Fear and
Courage. Beauty and Ugliness. Blessing and Curse. Virtue and Vice.
Easy and Hard. If anything Tantra has taught me, it is that the
beauty is also in the ugliness – that heaven and hell are part and
parcel. Both the hardest thing in the world to do, and the easiest
thing in the world to do, is to love. How hard it was to love, a
moment ago, and how easy, in the moment afterwards.

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~ by revolutionwithin on January 28, 2010.

4 Responses to “Loving and Hating”

  1. darlin, I jus sent you an email, this fits perfectly into 2nd part of chapter 5… the part where I asked you to explain further the word couplings… mwah…
    j

  2. Actually, this is from the book, from one of the later chapters. A friend today asked me a question about how they can’t be positive because they haven’t had good memories from life. Which reminded me of this and thought to post it for others also. I basically explained to him that while I wrote this, when I wrote about what I hated in others, life itself seemed bleak, and I was in a mindset where I felt unfortunate, with bad memories. The moment I switched to thinking about what I loved in others, suddenly the beautiful memories flooded it. Memories that seemed inaccessible a moment before.

  3. I don’t like liberals much, and Atheist really
    annoy me! Just because they have nothing to believe
    in, they insist that I shouldn’t as well.They act as
    if their opinion is important, when actuality, I’ve
    heard there arguments, and I’m still not impressed or
    convinced they are right.There objectives don’t need
    to include me, just like my faith doesn’t need to include
    them, and as soon as they figure this out, I will leave them alone..Unill then, I’ll be there worst nightmare. Faithfully committed to my beliefs!

  4. Wow Mikal! It has been a while my friend! A long while, to say the least. How have you been and what are you upto? Do email me: thilakshan at msn dot com

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